Funeral Wishes vs a Will: What Each One Does

Funeral Wishes vs a Will: What Each One Does

Many people assume that writing funeral instructions into a will settles the question. It often doesn’t, and the reason is timing. A will is usually found and read after the funeral has been arranged, sometimes days later. Funeral decisions are made in the first few days.

Understanding what each document does helps you cover both.

What a will does

A will sets out who receives your property, who your executor is, and who looks after any children. It is a formal legal document with strict requirements for signing and witnessing. It generally takes effect on death, but it is usually the executor who needs it, often not until the grant of probate stage.

What funeral wishes do

Funeral wishes describe your farewell: burial or cremation, type of service, music, readings, who speaks, flowers or donations, and where your ashes might go. They are about how you want to be remembered, not about who gets what.

Are funeral wishes in a will binding?

Generally, no. In Australia, the person responsible for arranging the funeral, often the executor or next of kin, usually makes the final call, and your wishes are treated as guidance. Rules and practice differ between states and territories, so speak with a solicitor about your situation.

Why funeral wishes should not live only in your will

1. Timing. The funeral is often arranged before the will is read or even located.
2. Privacy. A will can become a public document once probate is granted, so avoid putting sensitive personal details in it.
3. Updating. Changing a will means formal steps. Funeral preferences change more often, and should be easy to edit.
4. Access. Your funeral director and family need the wishes immediately. The will may be held by a solicitor or stored away.

The simple approach: use both, and link them

• Keep your will with your solicitor or in a known safe place.
• Write your funeral wishes separately and keep them easy to update.
• In your will, you can mention that your wishes are recorded elsewhere, if your solicitor agrees.
• Tell your executor and one other trusted person where each document is.

Quick comparison

Don’t forget the stories

Your family also benefits from knowing who you were: your life story, favourite photos, and what mattered to you. Celebrants use these for the eulogy, and families treasure them. None of this belongs in a will.

Keep both in one place

The practical problem is not knowing the difference. It is keeping wishes, documents, and memories together and reachable by the right people at the right time. Lifebook Memories lets you record your funeral wishes, life story, and photos, note where your will and documents are, and give nominated people access when needed.

This article is general information only and is not legal advice. Laws vary by state and territory; consult a solicitor.

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